โI have never asked you to stop being a woman. So please donโt ask me to stop being a man.โ
Tune into any piece of mainstream media from a few decades back and thereโs aย pretty decentย chance youโll land on something groan-inducing, especially if you happen to arrive at a moment when theyโre discussing things like gender, race or sexuality.ย It would be easy to write off the cringe-worthy line above as simply an unfortunate product of its time, the kind of archaic blemish found on most Hollywood classics, serving to date it but not to ruin it. But the Rocky II sceneย which contains itย –one of the movieโs most intimate moments, the line itself made somehow both better and worse by Sylvester Stalloneโs excellent delivery — comesย at a pivotal point.ย Rocky reveals that he has decided to return to the ring to face Apollo Creed once againย in spite ofย his wifeโs pleas not to. He doesnโtย cite their money troubles or his love of boxing or his anger at Creedโs continual insults. He tells his terrified, pregnant wife Adrian that he is going to step into the ring once more with the man who left him blood-covered and half-blind last timeย for one simple reason: because he is a man.ย
Itโs always worth noting that a movie needs certain things to happen so it can be a movie. Thereย must be anย incitingย incidentย to put the plot into motion, a conflict and a resolution.ย Inย Rocky II,ย Stallone’s protagonistย has toย eventually agree to come out of retirement for another bout with Creed because there just isnโt a movie if he doesnโt. But even if the decision itself is a matter of plot necessity, the means by which the movie justifies it, theย emotionalย logicย of it, is still highly significant. The feelings which inspire Rockyโs return to the ring need to feel believableย andย consistent with the character. Perhaps most importantly,ย they also need to feelย relatable. The audienceย has toย be able to connect with his decision if they are going to be invested in the fight itself.ย
โDonโt ask me to stop being a man.โ At this pivotal moment, Rocky II asks its audience to relate to an idea of masculinity that is both highly specific and emotionally charged.ย
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Rocky IIย begins with the final blows of the first movieโs matchup and follows Rocky into theย immediateย aftermath.ย After the bludgeoning he and Creed gave each other, aย visit to the hospital naturally follows.ย After the blood has been cleaned up and the swelling has begun to settle, the results are bad but not terrible. Rocky canโt see out of his right eye, and heโs not far from brain-damaged, but all the other breaks and bruisesย class=”bumpedFont15″>shouldย heal upย in time. All told, heโs got enough left to walk away from theย table and consider himself a winner. Rocky took a huge payday from the Creed fight and didnโt lose anythingย he canโt live without. Rockyย went the distance like he said he would, and heโs ready to retire.ย
Suddenly rich after a lifetime of scraping by,ย Rocky immediately goes on a spending spree. He buys a big house for him and Adrian to start a family in. He buys a flashy car, though he doesnโt entirely know how to driveย it. Rocky buys a gold watch for Adrian, one for him and one forย Paulieย — because why not? Rocky is a star now, and he has no doubt thatย his newfound celebrity status will pay for all the details of his happily ever after.ย
However, Rocky’sย first attempt to film a TV spot make it painfully clear that he isnโt built for theย high-pace world of television. He finds the people rude and the make-up ridiculous. Rocky’sย lack of schooling makes memorising linesย difficult,ย reading off cue-cardsย even more so. His lack of education even holds him back when he abandons his celebrity ambitions and tries to get a simple office job. Despite Rocky’s honesty, reliability and work ethic, he is aย blue collarย guy who doesnโt have the certificates or that โprofessionalโ finish that the kids born a wage bracket above him all take for granted.ย
Rockyโs story is one that will resonate with scores of people across the U.S. and beyond, both back in 1979 and now. After the 2016 general election, one of the main explanations offered for Donald Trumpโs victory was the plight of people in Rockyโs position: average workers left behind by an increasingly automated, service-based economy that had no place for them. Their situation quickly came to be described as โEconomic Anxiety.โ Just like Rocky, the story went, they finally got sick of a bad situation and chose to do something drastic.ย
Whatโs so important to the emotional core ofย Rocky II,ย though,ย is that this struggle is never just about economic hardship. At various times, Adrian offers to go back to work at the pet shop to help them pay the bills while Rocky figures things out.ย Over and over again, he tells her not to. Even as Rocky works himself to exhaustion at the meat plant and sells off theย thingsย he was so proud of finally being able to buy, heย wonโt let Adrian take on some of the strain. Heย has toย be the one to do it. Heย has toย be the one to provide. ย
For her part, Adrian is never much interested in living a life of luxury.ย Sheย sheepishlyย goes along with Rockyย on his spending spreeย because she loves him, swept up in his puppy-dog enthusiasm. Adrian supports Rocky as he tries to build the life of his dreams, but she makes itย pretty clearย that she would have been as happy with a smaller house, a simpler life, and a husband who wasnโt working himself to death — because itโs not really her that Rocky is doing itย allย for but rather an abstract, romantic idea of a woman and what she wants.ย And itโsย this conceit, this imaginary vision of womanhood,ย far more than the living, breathing woman Rocky shares his life with,ย that informs his idea of what a manย has toย be. Even as Adrian explicitly tells Rocky, time and again, what she wants from life, he remains fixated on his own idea of what she deserves, of what it is his duty to provide.ย
Itโs not about the money, or the things they can buy. Itโs about his ability to buy them. Itโs about status.ย
You see it from the look on Rockyโs face during the commercial shoot when the director yells at him to read off the โdummy cards.โ You can see it when his white-collar fall-back plan doesnโt pan out because he doesnโt have the credentials. And when his manual labour job, his last resort, is taken from him in the middle of a shift, in aย two-minuteย conversation. The pained, lost look on Rocky’s face is not about the bills he wonโt be able to pay or the things he wonโt be able to buy. Itโs about the fact that Rocky is not respected as a man, out in the world, trying to make a living.ย
This is what calls Rocky back to the ring. No matter how much it terrifies his wife, heย has toย go back because it is the only place in which he was able to stand tall and provide for his familyย class=”s5″>by virtue of his handsย and his heart. Rocky needs that. He needs it far more thanย paycheck. Rocky even needs it more than the family life he uses to justify it, opting to return to the ring even if it might tear his marriage apart. Rocky needs it because it makes him feel like a man, and that matters more than anything.ย
All of these concepts makeย Rocky IIย even more fascinating today — because Rocky is a deeply sympathetic character, played with a perfect mixture of wide-eyed excitement and hard-learned weariness by Stallone that makes him look lighter than air one minute and endlessly heavy the next.ย Even as he rattles off some pretty unenlightened ideas about men and women — his lecture to a local teenager about not being a slut is especially cringey — itโs impossible to get away from the sense that he is doing his best to be a good man in a world that is not making it easy.ย The fact that Rocky’s own conception of โa good manโ only serves to make his journey that much more tragic. From the vantage point of 2019, weโre not just watching an ageing, blue-collar guy struggling to get by in a modernising world, but a Shakespearean hero being slowly undone by his own fatal flaw.ย
Some movies age well because they are ahead of their time, tuned into ideas that wouldnโt become mainstream for years to come. Films likeย Rocky IIย age well because the moments that now seem anachronistic serve to shed light on problems we still have today, delivered by the kind of characters viewers can sympathise with, even if one doesn’t agree with all their opinions.
Ross McIndoe (@OneBigWiggle) is a freelance writer based in Glasgow. Other bylines include The Skinny, Film School Rejects and Bright Wall/Dark Room.
Categories: 2019 Film Essays, Featured, Fight Like a Man by Ross McIndoe, Film Essays

You know, I’m really torn on this series so far. On the one hand, you’re an excellent writer, and your analysis of Rocky as a character and the films in general, what makes them so appealing and stand the test of time, is equally excellent. Some of your thoughts and statements are genuinely wonderful, and deeply true.
On the other, your ideas are utter claptrap, “progressive” nonsense in which you assume the motives of people you do not know and judge them racist, sexist, and homophobic because you are the sole arbiter of what defines those things; in which you declare the basic urges that drive men–that have driven men for millennia, long before the idea of “masculinity” was even born–are toxic nonsense because you, for some arrogant and foolish reason, think you know better. It would be just as easy for someone to read your analyses and decide they come from the heart of a man who is and always has been a failure at what he deems truly important; a man whose bitterness and fear at his lack of stereotypical “masculinity” drives him to tear down men he sees as superior; a man who, like a child, sees what he cannot have and declares he didn’t want it anyway. Certainly a man who has never experienced life outside his own tiny circle and never met grown women who will be honest with him about what they truly want. Definitely a man whose racism runs so deep that he cannot see beyond skin color, and believes black men are not individual men in their own right but mere creatures, interchangeable and disposable, tokens to be crushed.
I could say all of those things about the man writing this…and they are exactly as true as some of your arrogant, unfounded, nasty declarations. I’m not saying them, because I don’t know you and do not judge what is in your heart, and because I have been raised to believe we assume goodwill in others rather than assuming the worst.
But I could say them.